God has gifted us with five senses with which we go about our daily walk. If we are walking with a spouse, these five senses are even more important. We need to use these gifts in our marriages on a daily basis, loving and knowing our spouses in every way possible.
This subject is too important to limit to one post. It warrants an expanded view of each sense as it relates to the holy union of marriage.
How do you look at your husband? Do you gaze through a filter that sees all his mistakes and flaws? All the ugliness that disappoints you and causes you to look at him with disgust? Or do you through the lens of our Heavenly Father, as a human being who has been fearfully and wonderfully made, in the image of God Himself?
The light of the body is
the eye: therefore when thine eye is single, thy whole body also is
full of light; but when thine eye is evil, thy body also is full of
darkness. (Luke 11:34)
The sense of sight is so important in the marriage relationship and not just on the surface. I need to see my husband with a clear eye, not a dirty one. I must see him as God sees him. God sees every square inch of him. He knows the birthmarks on the folds in my husband's skin. He knows exactly where the red bump is on his inner thigh. He knows the itchy spot on his head (and his other itchy spots). I must know why he laughs and why he cries. I must know why he wakes up in the wee hours of the morning and can't go back to sleep.
Do I know these things? Am I aware of the details of my husband, inside and out, or would I rather not get into the nitty gritty of actually "knowing" physically, intellectually, sexually and spiritually, the man whom God Himself chose for me. Do I take the time to look at him - really look at him - every square inch? Do I know how big that mole was last week? Do I really know what all of his many parts look like? Have I taken the time to see him? Am I too ashamed to look? Am I afraid to really examine him? Why?
On the flip side, do I allow myself to be open to my husband's eyes? Do I allow him to see me outside and inside? Is he able to look at my most deeply personal wrinkles and crevices, or do I put a halt to his efforts?
Wives, today I urge you to pray that God will open your eyes to your husband's physical being. Pray that you will begin exploring him with your eyes and really get to know his body.