Do I build up my house, or do I tear it down?
I'm not always a wise woman. I'm disagreeable. I complain and argue. I pluck my house down one complaint at a time.Every wise woman buildeth her house: but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands. (Proverbs 14:1)
I should love my husband and submit to him (build up my house), but often I find myself selfishly clinging to what I want instead of giving my all to my husband (pluck down my house).
Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. (Ephesians 5:22)Lew tries very hard to lead me as he feels led by the Lord. He has been given a vision for our marriage, our intimacy, our oneness. Sometimes I submit and sometimes I rebel.
Why? Because I want what I want. I do not want what he is asking of me. This happens more often than I want to admit. I give him not what he is asking of me, but only as much as I want to give. Did I mention that I am a selfish woman?
- I'm selfish about my house. I want it a certain way. I place it above people sometimes.
- I'm selfish about my time. When I'm reading I refuse to be interrupted, even if the children are on fire.
- I'm selfish about my body. I don't give my husband what he needs and desires in the bedroom. I only give him what I want him to have.
My prayer is that God will continue to work in me to change my selfish heart and help me step outside my comfortable little world into the world of serving and giving to my husband. I pray daily that He will help me understand that my husband has been given a vision for our marriage and that if I don't follow him we won't enjoy God's best for our marriage.
Take a moment, wives, and consider the vision your husband has been given for your family. Would it be so bad to obey God by submitting to your husband's authority? Wouldn't it be better to work through your objections and get over them? Wouldn't it be a good idea to be the wife your husband needs?