Defraud Ye Not One The Other

Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency. (1 Corinthians 7:5)


I'm a submissive wife. That means I have chosen to place myself under my husband's authority.  God has blessed me with a godly, loving husband, so I find it quite easy to submit.  So when my husband needs me sexually I freely give him my body for sexual pleasure.  That is and important part of God's plan for marriage. 

But is it enough to just give him my body?  What if I do it half-heartedly?  When I give him sex but withhold my enthusiastic attitude, aren't I still defrauding him?  If I hold my inhibitions close instead of letting go and getting lost in the experience of pleasure, isn't that fraud as well?

I have chosen to submit to my own husband.  That means that what he wants is what I am willing to give.  I am not to defraud him of the pleasure he wants.  (Nor is he to defraud me of the same).  To defraud means to present something that is false.  In other words, if I am capable of giving him more, of giving him exactly what he wants, the way he wants it, and I don't do it, I am guilty of defrauding my husband, and in so doing, I cause him to become vulnerable to sexual temptation.

Sounds harsh.  Well, sometimes the truth is harsh.  I must always remember that my husband faces a barrage of sexual temptations every day, and it is up to me to place a hedge around him by not defrauding him sexually.  I'm not going to sugar coat this.  I intend to give my husband the kind of sex he desires.  I am capable of it, and to do less is sin.