Solomon Must Be Kidding, Right?

In my post Intimacy - A Man's Way I talked about my husband Lew and the fact that he strives for a "Song of Solomon" sort of physical intimacy with me, rather than what the world deems normal in the sexual realm. 

I must admit that I was skeptical at first.  After all, my first husband never pushed for such deeply intimate things. He never asked me to be so open and vulnerable that I would lose myself in the way he felt, sounded, smelled, looked, tasted?

Wait a minute.  Yes he did.  I was the one who wouldn't give in and let myself go.  What was I thinking?  I spent my entire first marriage in deliberate disobedience to God and to my husband.  It's probably because I never saw sex as something holy, something designed by God as a gift to married people.

But as I began studying the beautiful poetry of Solomon in his Song of Songs, I realized more and more that God meant for me to make passionate, intimate love to my husband, and to let him make passionate, intimate love to me. 


As the apple tree among the trees of the wood, so is my beloved among the sons. I sat down under his shadow with great delight, and his fruit was sweet to my taste. (Song of Solomon 2:3)

This is one of the ways that my Lord has outlined as perfect, sexual love between a husband and wife.  It says that I should sit in his shadow and taste his fruit.  Almost every Bible scholar I can think of, plus my own pastor, his wife, AND my Titus 2 mentor (whom I trust with my life) have agreed that Solomon is talking about an oral-genital caress. (I'm not going into detail here - I think we all know what that is.) 

As I studied and asked more and more questions, it became clear to me that I needed to submit to my husband's wishes and obey the Lord as he outlined His perfect plan for married sexual love.  I was convicted to give Lew the wife who would love him they way God intended.  I decided to be a Song of Solomon lover for him and get absolutely lost in sexual intimacy with my husband.

I asked him to help me learn and to guide me, which was difficult and embarrassing for both of us at first. To lay myself out and accept that kind of specific sexual instruction from Lew was, well, awkward at first.  I had many moments of inadequacy.  But Lew was wonderfully supportive as he guided me through the process.

Now we are totally lost in our passion for each other.  There is no hesitation.  I want to experience every inch of him with all five of my senses.

His fruit is sweet to my taste.